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 You can solve complex problems at work.
So why can’t you solve this in your relationships? 

I work with high-functioning, self-aware individuals who can analyse everything - except the blind spot that keeps them stuck in relationships.

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This may feel familiar

Over time, this doesn’t just affect one conversation or one decision.
It shapes who you trust, what you tolerate, and how quickly you override your own instincts.
The repetition is subtle -  but cumulative.

  • You replay interactions long after they end, trying to find what you missed.

  • You postpone decisions, then feel pressure building underneath.

  • Different situations trigger the same internal reaction.

  • You adjust your strategy, but the tension returns.

  • You understand the dynamics, yet in the moment, you still respond the same way.

  • You promise yourself it won’t happen again. And then it does.

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​Not a lack of effort - a repeating behavioural pattern.

 

​What this actually is

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The situations look different, but the response is familiar.
It happens quickly - before you have time to decide.

We slow one real moment down and map what actually happened.
From there you get a concrete alternative to try next time.

The work draws from behavioural psychology, including CBT and ACT -
but applied to your specific situation.

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Pattern Mapping Session

A 60-minute structured intervention to decode one recurring dynamic and design a clear interruption strategy.​

What we do:

  • Reconstruct one recent interaction step by step - without skipping the uncomfortable parts.

  • Identify the automatic sequence: trigger → meaning you gave it → emotional surge → protective behaviour → outcome.

  • Locate the exact point where the sequence can be interrupted.

  • Design a small, values-aligned experiment to test in real life this week.

 

What Changes After This Work

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You may already understand your tendencies.
But understanding hasn’t stopped them.
The gap between awareness and action is where self-trust slowly erodes.Clients report:

  • Catching themselves mid-reaction.

  • Feeling less urgency to fix, chase, or withdraw.

  • Making relational decisions from clarity rather than anxiety.

  • Recognising attraction to familiar dysfunction earlier.

  • Experiencing emotional steadiness instead of swings.

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Testimonials

Clara

I noticed I often reacted too quickly in meetings. Lately I stop mid-sentence instead.

Karolina

I would replay conversations at night and adjust what I should've said. Now they don't follow me home that much.

Daniel

I kept going back and forth on one decision. I realised I wasn't missing information, I just wanted outcome that situation didn't give me.

This work is for you if:

  • You’re intelligent and reflective - but still repeat the same dynamic.

  • You know your attachment style, yet nothing changes.

  • You can explain your reactions logically, but in the moment you still react.

  • You keep attracting emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners.

  • You’re tired of analysing yourself without interrupting the loop.

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